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A fleeting, subjective impression

By: Allison Elizabeth Whitney

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Friday, 31-Jul-2009 08:28 Email | Share | Bookmark
Moving

 
I spent the day with my Ali and his darling friend Ellie. They rode a carousel together, and he made her sick by spinning round and round as fast as he could in a roundabout. It's fun to observe their relationship as friends. I sat on a bench, eating cotton candy, and watched my son spin the poor girl to death. She likes to tell him what to do. He looks like he wants to kick her in the shin.
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Ian and I have considered moving closer to where my mom and dad have their ranch. I want land and a house and horses and chickens. Sometimes, I think we should have a goat. Ali likes to ride his motorbikes and I like long driveways shaded by trees. I also want a porch with a design table outside my drawing room on the second floor. I want to work and sunbathe while wearing a large hat and sipping my iced tea.

Should we decide to move, I know I will miss our neighborhood. Two blocks down are the baseball diamonds. Down the street and to the right stands our church and Ali's school. I know and love our neighbors; we sit and chat into the late hours of the night while the kids are still out playing hide and seek, shining flashlights in each other's faces causing maniacal laughter. Everyday at seven sharp, the ice cream/ snow cone man comes down the street with the truck that plays a song and screams "hello". There is a neighborhood cat that likes to chill outside our dining room window and cause my dog to bark wildly and run all through the house only to come back to the window and start all over again. There are also the wonderful nights on the back porch, after get togethers with family and friends, when there was only Ian and I and a glowing pool. We are young, and we like to act like it. My home here has provided many sweet memories.

Making a move is such a big decision. Many of my friends my own age hop around town, moving here and there, just to try something new. They have no one else to think about but themselves. I can't do that so easily. It's so difficult trying to figure if you're making the right decision for your family.

Tomorrow, we are visiting my parents. Perhaps I will sneak up to my old bedroom and dig up the Magic 8-Ball from my closet and ask it if moving is the right decision. It was right years ago when my sister shook it like mad and asked, "Is Allison preggo?" and it replied with "You may rely on it."

However, I did get "Without a doubt" when I asked if I would ever get the chance to make out with Johnny Depp.

We lived in the country, in an old farm house on a dead-end dirt road. It was wonderfully remote and wild, but it was too far from everything, including our families and friends. We next purchased a vintage 1885 house in a small town on a double-sized lot with carriage house and alley behind. When we finally both worked in the same city, not splitting a commute 50/50, we next moved to a 1920s four-square in a wonderful neighborhood, the kind you describe, and I doubt we will ever find another one so good. Seven years since moving from there, though only 1.5 miles away, I still miss that old neighborhood and the folks we left behind, many of whom still have impromptu street pizza parties and kid play nights in somebody's front yard. Their newer neighbors have been drawn to that place just as we had been, and I think there is just that one street in this whole city that shines like that one.
But we moved for some of the same reasons you also describe. The desire for something just a bit more "us" become too strong. We did find what we wanted, an old farmhouse in the city. It, too, had been built in 1885 and was the center of 80 acres outside the city limits back then. The area has since been annexed and we have a half acre remaining of the original 80, the farmland long ago parceled off and made into 1950s and '60s subdivisions.
Ideally, I would choose to mix what we have with what we had, for the people of that former neighborhood were so much more than just neighbors. The kids' Montessori school was just two blocks away. The library was there, too, and parks and a couple of small stores: remnants of a better time, and we all knew it.

In the end, you can't have it all. So you have to turn away from that which you aren't quite sure about and follow those core desires in your heart. So... do you do your best to create that which you desire right there where you are, or do you take a leap into your dream and see how it turns out? Nobody knows the answers except by hindsight. But don't spend too much time wishing you were someplace else. Life's too short for large regrets; either change things or get over it.


I'd like chickens. But city ordinance requires 100 feet between chickens and any human dwelling in any/all directions. I can't quite squeeze that in there, but it's almost worth taking a chance. If we get caught, we just have them for dinner, I guess.
Fri 14-Aug-2009 19:23
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